Change The Way You Interact With Your Depression!

I know I briefly touched on this in my old post Somewhat Solution To The Sad Times but I felt it needed to be touched on again due to recent events. What do you do on those days where you just don’t feel like getting out of bed? The days where your whole entire being feels heavy, weighed down by the chemicals in your head. By chemicals i’m referring to the imbalance which causes depression. Depression is something i’ve known like a brother for the past 8-9 years, it crept up with just the occasional downswing to show it was coming. Before I knew it, it decided to move in. Things went from just feeling heavy and struggling to get out of bed, to the word suicide holding the same connotation in my head as a puppy. Things got extremely bad, but after several stupid decisions and a few failed actions, I began to gain some acceptance of this life.

Obviously I must be meant to be here regardless of my thoughts otherwise on the matter, else i’d already be long gone. The feelings have never truly gone away and I can always feel those thoughts lurking in the back of my mind, sneaking in any time they notice a point of weakness. It’s alright though, i’ve come to welcome this duality into my life. So many hours spent on thoughts about death and dying just serve to contrast the brighter parts of life making them even more evident. Surrendering to the universe i’ve decided whatever will happen will happen, and the moment I made that decision it was as if I was no longer carrying as heavy of a weight! So i’m not sure if depression ever goes away for those of us who are truly depressed, but I have learned that if you can change the way you see and interact with your depression than it WILL get easier. Even if just by a tiny bit.

I find it’s helpful to set tasks for yourself, just little things that force you out of bed at some point in the day. Once you’re out of bed allow yourself the comfort of a nice long warm shower, but make sure not to let your mind wander too much into heavier territory, just focus on the sensations of the water pounding your back, the steam caressing your skin, the warmth enveloping your bones; be present in the moment. Grab some earbuds and go for a short walk around your neighbourhood. Breathe in some deep breaths of fresh air savouring the feeling of freshness, feel a light breeze wrap around you in the ghost of a hug from mother earth, listen to those birds crying out their joy for life to the world, feel the warmth of the sun on your face; lose yourself in it. Once again these are all just different ways to stay present in the moment, but really that’s one of the most beneficial things you can do when you’re under siege by your own head.

For a time I tried using various forms of escapism before I realized what I was doing, and while they did allow me to step away from my thoughts I would always be right back with them afterwards without anything to truly show for it. I devoured books at an insane pace, plowing through multiple series in a week, I binged thousand of anime episodes, countless tv shows, movies, devoted insane amounts of hours into video games. But you know what? None of that was ever more than a temporary fix, a patch job, a band-aid on a gaping head wound. They would somewhat delay the end result but they wouldn’t have any other benefits. I mean I guess I could argue some of my writing ability came from all of that reading but seeing as most of it was fantasy I didn’t really learn much which couldn’t be found in an english class room over a much considerably shorter span of time.

So if things are going bad, like game over time to start a new file level bad. Change something in your life. Please stop waiting for others to come and help you, stop wallowing in the sadness, reveling in the sad music, vibing along to words of knives and bullets through the head. Stop running past scenarios over and over again in your head focusing on that empty, hollow, throbbing pain inside your chest. Please. None of that’s going to help you and just giving in and letting it swallow you up will be something you’ll always regret. Forever looking back and wondering exactly when things got so bad that you decided you didn’t want this life anymore. And I truly hate more than anything that people can relate to feeling this way, if there’s anyone reading this who hasn’t already done so and they’re feeling like they’re standing at an edge of a precipice, please, please, please confide in just a few people. Even if just one or two, allow them to help you hold that weight on your shoulders, and if you don’t have anyone to turn to than find someone! Your parents, therapists, a community of strangers online, new friends, whichever you choose just please don’t try to go it alone, I can tell you from experience that it never works well. And if you choose to go it alone, well if you’re one of the lucky ones you’ll live with the scars over your soul thinking of all you’ve done or tried to do because of this illness. Please don’t do that to yourself, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

I started this post planning to write about different things I do to lift my mood when i’m feeling low, instead I spent my time opening up about things I never expected to be telling random strangers on the internet. But the thought of this post helping even just a single person by giving them something to relate to, well it makes it something I almost feel as if I HAVE to post. If opening up about my past experiences and telling life stories to strangers has a chance to help people than the decision is an easy one. Which is kind of odd for me to think about because growing up I was an extremely private person who would go to great lengths in order to avoid opening up to anyone outside of my super close-knit friend group, heck even they didn’t know everything about me! In fact I specifically remember one of them talking to me about how they’d never seen me truly angry or sad and they complimented me on always being so calm even though that was the base emotion I had decided to put forward and wear like armor; I didn’t want anyone knowing exactly how broken I felt every day, and you know what it’s done for me? It led to two of my friends taking their own lives feeling there was no one they could relate to when all along I was right there and could have talked to them about it. Don’t put yourself in a position like that, I promise you it’ll feel like poison in your soul.

Anyways this got extremely dark and i’m super sorry for all of that everyone! Please try to always take the time to look after your earthly bodies as well as your spiritual half, their duality is what allows us this beautiful human experience. I wish each and every one of you the very best and I hope you continue moving forwards through this life! If you’re ever feeling really low and just need someone to talk to than shoot me a message over on instagram @fadetostay and i’ll do my best to get back to you. Continue living in the moment and spreading the peace, love, and those beautiful tranquil vibes!

C.C.

Planning For The Future.

I spent the last few days just meditating and planning out where i’m going to go with things, along with watching some videos and gleaning bits of knowledge. To be perfectly honest i’m still not one hundred percent sure on any of my decisions and some of them are constantly changing in my head. But I do know this, this blog is going to be up for at least a year. During this year i’m going to add an instagram account linked to the page, in fact i’ve already done so! You can find me @fadetostay if you’d like to check thing out, i’m going to be posting at least once or twice a week but that may change in the future.

All of the videos I was watching were telling me things like “Don’t be idle.” “Make yourself useful.” I mean it’s things we tell children right? But nonetheless these sayings still hold true no matter what your age is. In this day and age all around us we see creators and consumers; the people who walk around day and night spending money on things they think they really want but don’t actually need, and the people who are always creating, releasing new content and drawing in more and more consumers. Some of those creators even help teach others to create! Which is where they make their income, well not income I guess but more like how they build their brand up to the point that they can start finding ways to generate an income from it. (Which is technically different, right?…right?)

I think depending on what I can get going with this blog and Instagram I might even begin attempting to generate some sort of YouTube presence. As InfiniteWaters says “Video has the largest domain right night now.” And if i’m ever going to get to the point of being able to use blogging, videos, and social media as my main sources of income than i’m going to have to start somewhere right? On the upside I already have a tiny bit of experience with this from my Acting! Take that everyone who said an arts degree was useless! Ha ha! Sorry, that was quite gratifying. Also I should clarify i’m not apologizing for any other reason than i’m canadian and that’s just what we do, ^-^

Do you know what every single one of the big, super popular, tons of followers, content creators say? At one point they’ll all recommend you getting yourself a website, it’s how they grew their own brands usually. They all talk about it along with the phrases “Consistency is key.” or “Stay focused.” “Be confident.” “Be bold.” “Stop waiting!” and my favorite “Always ask yourself ‘how is this working for me?'” But you know why they all constantly say these phrases? These daily motivators and tidbits to keep you going? Because they work. Honest, they’re all one hundred percent true. If you follow all of those things in this day and age with the technology and resources available to us, all while living truthfully and following what you love, you will find an avenue to succeed. All it takes is a little time and discipline, which are honestly two things I need to manage way better for myself and I will going forwards. I know I keep saying i’m going to get back into posting every single day and letting it go, but i’m saying it once more. Hopefully for the last time for a long while.

I might try learning how to automate things, like posts for social media. That way I can always have some more posts on the way even if I end up needing a day off from writing. For now though i’ve got to hop over to instagram and toss up a post or two, I hope you took something from this. I always feel like I end up teaching myself more about any topic I begin to write about, but then again they say the best way to learn is to teach!

As always, peace, love, and tranquil vibes,

C.C.